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Greenpointers Advice: How Do I Socialize with a Friend Who Doesn’t Drink?

Bullet Mouth is Greenpointers’ advice column, here to answer your questions on life’s many vexing issues, and share how hanging out in Greenpoint can help.

Cocktails at Esme: A Good Soldier (Becherovka, Bourbon, corn lemon, cinnamon) and A Los Suicidas (Mezcal, Pimms, Strawberry, Lime, Beet) . Photo: Rosie deBelgeonne
Cocktails at Esme. Photo: Rosie deBelgeonne

Dear Bullet Mouth: I just found out that a new friend doesn’t drink alcohol. That’s totally cool by me, but short of only hanging out with her during the day, how do I work her into my social life? I don’t invite her out to bars, right? What about get-togethers where there will be alcohol?

Answer: Though it’s hard to imagine living in a booze-laden metropolis—or even a one-saloon town—as a teetotaler, recent excesses have me contemplating the potential benefits of going off the sauce. Namely, “hair of the dog” would cease to be an integral part of my vocabulary, cash would start piling up and I’d probably lose ten pounds. I would also have to completely overhaul my social life and acquire some new hobbies. Continue reading

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Introducing Bullet Mouth: Greenpointers’ New Advice Column

Bullet Mouth is Greenpointers’ new advice column, here to answer your questions on life’s many vexing issues.

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Raise a glass to living within your means.

Dear Bullet Mouth:
I have a group of friends who love to go out to dinner and out to bars all the time, which is great, as I love to socialize and be out on the town too.
The problem is, lately I’ve been a little on the broke side and can’t afford the same lifestyle. I want to see people and be involved, but how do I avoid forking over serious cash every night?
—Cash-Strapped on Calyer

Dear Cash-Strapped on Calyer: Everyone I know has this problem. Like you, they either can’t afford night-after-night out or, if they can, feel guilty about it because they should be saving more or engaging in healthier activities. You are absolutely not a special snowflake in this regard.

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Is a Degree in a Competitive Field Worth the Effort? – Ask a Therapist!

Dear Daniel,

As someone who never went to school when I was younger, I am now perusing a degree. I’m about halfway through, and I feel like the economy is so bad and my field is so competitive, it’s all just not worth it. I fear I may be bar tending until I’m 60. Any advice on how to not kill myself or become an alcoholic? Continue reading

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“Do What You Want!” Shake Those Holiday Blues With Great Advice From a REAL Psychologist

Williamsburg Therapy Group has been a loyal sponsor of Greenpointers since the beginning and I only met Psychologist and owner of the practice Daniel Selling last week. Unsurprisingly we hit it off and I have a great interview to share with you.

But before that is done I want to share some really great advice he gave to readers who are suffering from those Holiday Blues. Continue reading

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Greenpointers Advice Open Call: My Ex-Boyfriend Is A Subway Perv

Photo courtesy of John Zippy.

Ok, Greenpointers. We usually have experts answer reader questions, like Pastor Ann or our fitness gurus. But this time, we’re turning to you. Because the question we recently received in our inbox, from an anonymous reader, is well… unique, to say the least. Just read it for yourselves.

Dear Greenpointers,

My ex-boyfriend was taking up-skirt photos and videos of women on the subway. After a lot of fighting and promises, I stayed with him because he promised to stop and get help. To say the least, he didn’t. When I found new photos, I left him.

My problem is–I’m feeling complicit in his crimes. Continue reading

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