by Jen G 
Question:
I am very in love with my girlfriend of 3 years, but about a years ago her sexual energy plateaued and now I’m lucky if we have sex even once per month. Should I break up with her even though that is my only issue with her? Last time I mentioned her change it resulted in a large fight and her feeling getting upset.
Dear Only-Once-A-Month,
Before you break up with your girlfriend, here…
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I have to disagree with some of what has been said here. First of all, it’s not a “we” problem—it’s her problem. Whether it’s a choice, a result of depression or a product of hormonal imbalance, that is something that she has to own. The good news is that if the lack of sexual desire is a result of the last two problems—it can be fixed via medication. The bad news is that if it’s a choice, then there’s nothing that’s going to change her mind or fix the problem. That’s when you decide to get the hell out of there, live a sexless life or get your partner to agree to an open relationship.